THE ANTIDOTE

The inmates have taken over the asylum at the University of Missouri. And, though the protests are based on unproven accusations, the virus is spreading to other colleges. It’s a head scratcher that one of the young men claiming oppression is the student body president who was elected by the 93% White student body and was also chosen Homecoming King (a popularity contest). Another oppressed student’s father makes $8.4 million a year. And, apparently, the incident that caused the chaos was only seen by one student and there was no sign of it when investigated. Students forced the resignation of the President and Chancellor of the University because they didn’t do enough about the non-proven racial oppression. I don’t think my suspicion that there is an organized effort to create racial unrest in this country is unfounded.

It is impossible to go through life without being offended. Because people are different with different goals, different backgrounds, different points of view, they are offended by different things. Personally, I’m offended by the entire “White Privilege” meme. News Flash: We ALL have obstacles to overcome. We ALL have people who don’t like us for reasons known only to them. You may face different obstacles than someone else faces, but theirs are no less daunting than yours. When White people fail they have to examine what they did to contribute to their failure and because failure is a learning experience, they examine what to do to avoid it in the future. Most successful people have failed more than once. But Blacks have an out, they have been encouraged to believe any failure is due to White oppression. Therefore, there is no need for self examination, it’s replaced by anger and resentment.

As this is unfolding I am reading Rev. Jesse Lee Peterson’s new book, “The Antidote”. To say this book is a must read is not sufficient. This book should be used as a text book in all our schools. Peterson’s book discusses the elephant in the room, the real reason for the anger in the Black community, particularly in young Black men. He meticulously covers the reason for the anger and how Black leaders have manipulated and misdirected this anger for their own purposes.

Peterson speaks of his own childhood on a plantation in the Jim Crow South. When he was born Blacks had strong, intact families and Christian values. Kids were taught respect and moral values. In those days it was shameful to have a baby out of wedlock and when Peterson’s mother became pregnant his father refused to accept paternity or marry his mother. Though she found another man to marry before Peterson’s birth, she held resentment against Peterson’s father nearly all her life. His mother’s resentment toward his father manifested itself in a coldness toward their son. Shortly after marrying, she and her new husband moved away and left Peterson to be raised by his grandmother.

Peterson grew up angry. It’s an anger too many fatherless boys grow up with. This isn not unique to the Black community but it is more prevalent. But rather than address the reasons for the breakdown of the family and the 70% single parent birthrate in the Black community, Black leaders and schools, with the support of the Liberal media, tell Blacks that the anger they feel is due to White opression and racism. It’s an easy sell and it relieves them from any self examination. It also leads to the hatred of everything White, the Constitution, the Rule of Law, education, dressing appropriately, speaking properly, etc. A lack of respect for those things greatly reduces their job prospects. Anyone who suggests this could be a problem, is called racist and shouted down.

Jesse Lee did a great deal of footnoted research into the backgrounds of Michael Brown and Trayvon Martin, both angry young men raised in fatherless homes, and he continues with Jesse Jackson, Al Sharpton, Joe Frazier, Mohammed Ali, Malcolm X, Tookie Williams, Tupac Shakur, O.J. Simpson, and many other well known Black men. All raised in fatherless homes and all spoke of the anger they had because of it. Most were also raised by angry mothers. Many abandoned altogether by distant, substance abusing mothers and raised by grandmothers. When a mother hates the father of her child, the message the child gets is that she hates part of them. Women can’t teach a boy how to become a man. And these boys never learn to be a man or how to treat a woman as they’ve never have an example to learn from.

When, up until the 60’s, the percentage of Black children being raised by married parents was greater than the average but now more than 70% of children are born to single women, and when Black unemployment was low and Black children were respectful in school and now the opposite is true, it would be productive to examine what happened that resulted in such a drastic change. Before the 60’s we had slavery and Jim Crow laws and yet Blacks were married, employed, and more successful as a whole than they are today. There was more White oppression during Jim Crow years, so what happened?

As long as Blacks refuse to examine what happened since the 60’s and refuse to do any self examination nothing will change. Jesse Lee points out that most young Black men have had no reliable man to guide them, protect them, teach them and discipline them when they needed it and it isn’t likely there was even such a man in their neighborhood……for generations. It’s no surprise they are angry. They see families with fathers and know what they are missing. Whether or not they would admit it, they know that’s the natural order of things.

But change did happen for Jesse Lee. He looked in the mirror and didn’t like what he saw. He turned to God and asked God to take the anger from him. He stopped blaming anyone or anything for the despair he felt. Jesse Lee says we all need love but hate separates you from God and without God you can’t love. Our founders, even those who were atheists or agnostics, understood without the belief that our rights come from God, not man, without belief in the laws of nature and nature’s God, we wouldn’t be able to keep our Republic. Just as we need God, the father, in our lives, families need a father in their lives. If we are to survive as a nation, we need to examine why they are missing.

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About madderthanhell

Retired casting director. Mother of two daughters. Grandmother of twin boys and two step grandsons. Lived in California all my life. Co-organizer of two Tea Parties. Past member of Republican Central Committee.
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